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- You express thoughts and FEELINGS (basic psychology), both yours
and those you perceive in others (family therapy).
- Together, we identify unexpressed thoughts and FEELINGS
(psychodynamic).
- Thoughts are evaluated for their realism (cognitive
behavioral therapy) and for their symbolism (psychodynamic).
- Clients are taught how to physically express their EMOTIONS and
FEELINGS (bioenergetics, play therapy, gestalt therapy, psychodrama,
family therapy).
DR. SHARON SAYS:
To fully know it...
You have to show it.
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Clients are taught the FEELINGS and EMOTIONS
associated with physical SENSATIONS (Dr. Sharon’s Unified
Theory of Emotions).
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Clients are taught to control their MOODS
by alternating between thoughts and feelings and acting out physical
sensations (bioenergetics, gestalt therapy).
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“Melodrama”—playful expression of FEELINGS
and EMOTIONS in more exaggerated ways than we ordinarily use—is
encouraged in order to accelerate change, and make EMOTIONS less
threatening, easier to identify, and easier to benefit from (play
therapy, psychodrama).
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Clients are taught that stuck in emotional patterns can be cleared through connection to early manifestations and ‘reparenting’ of the pattern (psychoanalysis, hypnotherapy).
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Clients are taught that no matter what physical dysfunction they are experiencing, there is always a significant emotional component (psychoanalysis, bioenergetics, gestalt therapy).
For example:
People often predict doom and gloom
to themselves by saying, “I
know it’s
going to be a bad day,” or to a child by saying, “You’re
going to fall!.” But these are actually fear statements, not
predictions. Statements driven by fear are
meant to wake you up to possibilities and energize you for corrective
action, but cannot predict anything with certainty. Treating fear-based
statements as predictions will cause you to experience the
depression, more fears, and angers associated with
such an experience actually coming true.
At the same time, it’s also
important not to dispatch any thought without some inspection. Fearful
thoughts will continue to assail until you use your fear by
getting accurately in touch with both the physics and purpose of
your fear.
To handle your fear well and gain maximum information
from it, you need two tools.
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Rephrase
your statements to more accurately reflect your
reality. You might need to say, “I’m afraid I’m
going to have a bad day” and then articulate why you’re
afraid.
Or, to the child, you’d be more helpful to say “I’m
afraid
you’re going to fall down” and
then explain why you’re
afraid.
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It will often help to physically
express the fear by some kind of widening of your eyes and/or shivering
(see Theory)
so that you can get the entire message of your fear across to
yourself, or the child, rather than cutting the ‘conversation’ short
in
terms of what your body is trying to tell you. Accurate physical
expression also helps to detour you away from inaccurate and
unhealthy thinking.
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